Finding a partner to spend the rest of your life with can be difficult, even under the best of circumstances. It used to be that Christians met other Christians primarily through church services or family and friend introductions. They also met dating partners locally. They didn’t have the option to search the globe for their perfect match on dating sites.

Everything changed when sites like match.com and eharmony came onto the scene. Several commercials advertise why one dating site is the best one to choose over another. It can be confusing to decide which one to try because of the sheer number of options available. There are options for people of all religions, sexual preferences, and other interests. Christians may be left wondering if there are sites where they can meet like-minded people, looking for a Christ-centered relationship.

Below is a list of 10 popular dating sites, and the pros and cons of each of them. Most of the sites are exclusively Christian; however, some do welcome people of other religions and belief systems as well, though they are advertised as Christian dating sites.

#1 – Christian Cafe 

We’re a Christian singles website and ministry, where singles can search, find and meet others for dating, relationships, marriage, and community. It’s easy to connect with Christian singles in your area. You’ll be able to search for local single men and women as soon as your free trial profile is created.”

Pros: While Christian Café is a dating site, people are also encouraged to post prayers and share their testimony. Christians can be as serious or casual about dating as they want to be, and all Christian denominations are welcome.

Cons: The free trial lasts for 10 days. After that, the user has to upgrade to a Café membership plan. Otherwise, users won’t be able to share personal information, such as phone numbers, addresses, etc.

#2 – Christian Connection

Christian Connection is a multi-award-winning dating site, dedicated to matching single Christians in the United Kingdom, Ireland, Australia, United States, Canada, Singapore, Hong Kong, and New Zealand.”

Pros: Christian Connection has won many awards for its dating site because of its high standards. It has been in business since 2000. It also offers dating advice for those who are interested.

Cons: The free trial period gives you full access to the site for only three days before it switches over to a Profile membership.

#3 – Christian Cupid

ChristianCupid.com is a specialist dating and matchmaking website that assists Christians to find their perfect match. We offer friendly service combined with sophisticated search and messaging facilities that will make your search for true love fun and enjoyable.”

Pros: Christian Cupid is not only a match-making site, but it’s also for those who want to meet friends and pen-pals. It has a limited time 3-month trial period where a person has access to a platinum membership during that time.

Cons: Platinum membership may be considered pricey at $29.98 per month.

#4 – Christian Dating for Free 

Christian Dating For Free, CDFF, is the largest and best free Christian dating site for Christian singles in the world. Our service features both iOS and Android free dating apps as well as a desktop and mobile website. Unlike paid sites, it is 100% free to communicate with every single Christian member you see on CDFF. This means you can communicate with more singles than any other Christian dating app or site…Join online or download our new iOS, Android or Windows app today! You can use your Facebook account to join faster.”

Pros: Because CDFF has advertisements and sponsors on their site, they can offer a completely free dating service. There is no trial period. Also, they don’t tolerate indecent behavior and encourage any member to email them if they feel harassed in any way.

Cons: The site is free to use, but if someone wants the ads removed, they do have to sign up for an Elevate membership. This makes the “completely free” advertisement misleading.

#5 – Christian Mingle 

Christian Mingle is the leading Christian dating site for single men and women looking for a God-centered relationship. What sets us apart is our ability to help our members make quality connections. We feature robust profiles and personalization features to help members connect with other like-minded members. Plus, our suite of powerful communication tools helps members meet more people and make deeper connections.”

Pros: Christian Mingle is a website dedicated to bringing people together who want a Christ-centered relationship. Plus, they give safe dating tips.

Cons: This is dating site meant for Christians wanting to date other Christians, which excludes those of other faiths.

#6 – Crosspaths 

Crosspaths is the largest and most trusted Christian dating app connecting Christian Singles worldwide…This Christian matchmaking dating app was developed with the latest technology to analyze thousands of profiles and provide the best matches for you. Search, match, and chat with Christian singles near you and find your Christian soulmate in a new way!”

Pros: Crosspaths uses swipe technology for checking out a person’s profile. It’s also an easy and free app to download and use.

Cons: Crosspaths is app exclusive and can be downloaded on Google Play. However, there are also reviews where people claim they’ve swiped on fake profiles. This app may not be as monitored as it should be.

#7 – eharmony

eharmony is the first service within the online dating industry to use a scientific approach to matching highly compatible singles. eharmony’s matching is based on using its 29 DIMENSIONS® model to match couples based on features of compatibility found in thousands of successful relationships.”

Pros: After 35 years of counseling married couples, eharmony was created by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a clinical psychologist, and Christian theologian. Connecting people on 29 dimensions ensures couples will have their most compatible match.

Cons: Because people have to fill out a relationship questionnaire when signing up, it can take more time to find a match than some may want to put the effort into. If someone is looking for a casual dating site, this one isn’t for them. eharmony is also no longer exclusively a Christian dating site, though it did start that way.

#8 – Match 

Match.com continues to redefine the way single men and women meet, flirt, date, and fall in love. It proves time and again that you can make love happen through online dating, and that lasting relationships are possible… Match puts you in control of your love life. Meeting that special someone and forming a lasting relationship is as easy as clicking on any one of the photos and singles ads available online. Whether you’re interested in Christian Dating, Jewish Dating, Asian Dating, Black Dating, Senior Dating, Gay Dating, Lesbian Dating, Match.com can help you find the date or relationship that fits you best.”

Pros: Match is one of the most popular dating sites out there. They encourage people with all kinds of interests to sign up to meet the love of their life, which creates a welcoming atmosphere.

Cons: While Match is advertised as a Christian dating site in online search results, it isn’t exclusively one, which may turn some people off to their service.

#9 – Our Time 

At OurTime.com, we honor the freedom, wisdom, and appreciation for life that only comes with time. We also recognize that what people want in their 50s, 60s and beyond is often very different from what they wanted in their 30s and 40s, let alone their 20s. This online dating community focuses on the specific interests and desires of people like you.”

Pros: Our Time recognizes the importance of giving the older population a place to meet new people of their age group. Since people’s dating preferences can change over time, those who are in the 50+ group have a more specialized dating experience for them.

Cons: Because Our Time was created just for the 50’s and older dating pool, they exclude younger people who could be interested in dating someone from that age group. Our Time is not an exclusively Christian site, though Christians do meet there.

#10 – Zoosk 

Zoosk is a leading online dating company that personalizes the dating experience to help singles find the person and relationship that’s just right for them. Zoosk’s Behavioural Matchmaking technology is constantly learning from the actions of over 35 million members to deliver better matches in real-time. With the #1 grossing online dating app in the Apple App Store, Zoosk is a market leader in mobile dating. Available in over 80 countries and translated into 25 languages, Zoosk is a truly global online dating platform.”

Pros: Zoosk offers a Behavioral Matchmaking system, making it more likely for users to find a suitable match based on their unique preferences. They also offer dating and relationship advice.

Cons: Zoosk isn’t exclusively a Christian dating site.

Pros and Cons of Christian Dating Sites

After checking out some of these sites, I started to wonder about the pros and cons of using online Christian dating sites and thought making a list of them might be helpful for those who decide to look for a date.

PROS

Pro: The first pro is obvious. Dating someone who shares the same faith is vitally important to many people. The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV), “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” When one partner is a believer in Christ and the other is not, it can put a huge strain on the relationship. God is supposed to be at the head of a marriage, and when He isn’t, additional problems will arise because of a lack of understanding between husband and wife.

Pro: Dating sites such as eharmony.com match people based on a variety of important Biblically inspired areas in a relationship. The more two people have in common, the more likely their relationship will be able to stand the test of time. Divorce is less likely. Faith is the foundation of a Christian relationship, so bringing two Christians together just makes sense.

Pro: Many Christians are determined to remain pure before marriage. It’s easier to remain pure when a potential partner understands where they’re coming from because they share the same values as each other. It allows two people to get to know each other in other important areas of the relationship without the pressure of pre-marital sex.

Pro: Many people go on dating sites to find someone they’ll eventually marry, and with marriage comes children. When two Christians date, they’ll both agree on the importance of raising children in a godly home.

CONS

Con: To exclusively seek out a Christian partner might mean someone misses out on the love of their life. We all come to Christ at different times in our lives. Perhaps, someone who doesn’t follow Christ when a believer meets them may eventually come to be saved by Him later on. Sometimes, we just have to be patient and wait on God’s perfect timing where our partner is concerned.

Con: Taking such an extensive questionnaire to find a match can take the fun out of dating. Actually talking to someone and getting to know them in person can be a rewarding and interesting experience. We shouldn’t judge someone until we get to know them. We could be pleasantly surprised by who they are as a person.

Con: Just because someone decides to stick exclusively to Christian dating sites doesn’t mean the person they meet will be a Christian. There is always a risk when meeting anyone online that they won’t be completely honest about who they are. The movie, Christian Mingle, shows a good example of this. While it’s a cute film to watch, initially the main character signs up for the Christian Mingle dating site claiming to be a Christian when she really isn’t. This leads to problems later on with the guy she starts dating. This proves that honesty, especially in a relationship, really is the best policy.

Con: On the other hand, some people also go on dating sites just to meet new people and make friends. It’s good to have friends with all different kinds of belief systems. God made everyone in His image, and every person has value in His eyes. It’s important that we learn from one another. “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” (Proverbs 27:17)

Dating in Today’s World

Today, with all the dating apps available, there are more options than ever when it comes to choosing who to date. While it’s important for someone to know what they’re looking for in a potential partner and it’s wise to date someone with the same values they have, it’s also important to let loose and have fun. Check out these hilarious videos for a good laugh.

Christian Tingle 1 (Tyler and Tripp)

Christian Tingle 2 (Tyler and Tripp)

Christian Mingle Inspector (John Crist)

The whole dating experience is supposed to be time for someone to meet new people and discover new things about themselves, including what they like and dislike in a partner. Christian dating is no different. There are pros and cons of online dating no matter which site a person uses. It’s important to give people a chance to show their true character, but at the same time, there’s no reason people shouldn’t be honest and upfront about what they’re looking for in a partner, too. The internet adds another level to dating. One that allows a person to narrow down their options as much as they want to.

Once you have found your perfect match, snuggle up and watch these 8 Redemptive Films to Strengthen Your Marriage.